Wednesday, April 22, 2009

I FIND AM AN AVID MOVIE WATCHER


SO WHERE DO I GET MOVIES FOR A GOOD PRICE

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Tuesday, April 21, 2009

I Can Do It!

Can Do It! Seminar

May 12th, 2006 by Steve Pavlina Email this article to a friend Email this article to a friend

Last weekend my wife and I attended Hay House’s 3-day I Can Do It! seminar at the Sands Expo here in Las Vegas. The last time I went to this seminar was in 2004, and I absolutely loved it both times. In fact, I would have to say that this was the best seminar I’ve ever attended in terms of the transformational effect it had on me personally… both times. It was after attending this seminar in 2004 that I finally committed to retiring from computer game development. I joined Toastmasters the next month, and later that year I launched this web site. What an incredible journey it’s been since then — I wouldn’t trade it for anything!

I’m not real fond of the seminar’s “I Can Do It!” title because it brings to mind images of Stuart Smalley from Saturday Night Live doing his daily affirmations. But positive thinking and self-esteem isn’t the focus of this seminar. The focus is on spirituality, awareness, and higher consciousness. It has sort of a post-new-age feel to it. Keynote speakers included Dr. Wayne Dyer, Sylvia Browne, Carolyn Myss, and Doreen Virtue. I’d estimate the attendees are 80-90% female, so I was in the minority. I rather liked that though — it was refreshing to be around so much female energy for the weekend, quite the opposite of what I’d experience at tech expos. I don’t recall there being as much hugging at the Game Developers Conference. :)

As I normally do with book or seminar reviews, I’m going to review the whole seminar based on what I learned and how it affected me, rather than just regurgitating the same material you can get from the I Can Do It! web site.

Since my wife, Erin, attended too (she didn’t in 2004), we’ll both review it individually. Hopefully this will yield a more balanced review.

Overall

Steve: This was a truly amazing conference. It was refreshing to be in the presence of kindred spirits. One of the running jokes at the conference was that speakers kept asking, “How many of you are considered the weird one in your family?” And everyone would raise their hands. It’s unfortunate that being spiritually open-minded and joyful is considered weird, but the simple truth is that being in this state often invites experiences that cannot be understood by people who are more traditionally-minded. This includes things like psychic phenomena, channeling, out of body experiences, and lucid dreaming. Such a conference attracts people who’ve had such experiences personally, whether they were just born that way, “switched on” by a near-death experience, or gradually transformed through the pursuit of higher awareness.

Erin: This was one of the most enjoyable seminars I’ve ever attended. I left feeling so transformed, so inspired, and actually chanting to myself, “I can do it!” The people who attended this seminar exuded love, peace, and compassion so much that I wanted to remain in their presence long after the conference was over. I’ve never been around so many people at the same time who were so spiritually aware and vibrating at such a high frequency. It was like coming home! I was smitten by the gorgeous clothing and jewelry being sold by the vendors at this conference. I even bought a ring that just really called to me (something I rarely do), and I know that every time I look at this ring I will remember my experience at this seminar.

Doreen Virtue, Ph.D - Connect and Communicate With Your Angels

Steve: In this all-day pre-conference workshop, Doreen explained how to perceive and connect with angelic beings for divine guidance and help. She led us through several meditations and did lots of angel readings with the attendees. At one point her husband, Steven Farmer, joined her to talk about animal guides, and he and Doreen gave a few readings together. It was a very powerful experience, as many of the readings had a noticeable affect on the attendees. I wasn’t feeling much of a connection in the angel meditations at first; however, in one of the meditations we asked for a message, and I received one that told me to watch for something specific. At the time I just wrote it down and forgot about it, but it actually came up only hours later and was important for me to notice. I felt most in tune with the animal guide meditation — that came in strong and clear for me.

Doreen’s presence absolutely beams love and compassion. She speaks from the heart and comes across as very genuine, and her sense of humor is delightful. The most amazing part of this workshop for me was when she paired us up to do readings of people we’d never met. I was paired with a Canadian woman who channeled some info that was meaningful to me, although I can’t say it was profound. When I read for her though, I felt this floodgate of information coming through, and I gave her lots of specific info. She not only verified it was accurate but told me that she’d heard much of the same thing from other psychics. I left the room with a bit of a buzz, not quite understanding what I’d just done. When the exercise was over, I still felt like I was getting more information to tell her. Throughout the conference I kept seeing this woman everywhere (among thousands of attendees), and I eventually told her I had more info to give her and gave her the rest of the message. It was an incredible experience… as if somebody up there really wanted me to tell her something and was going to keep bringing us together until this task was done.

Erin: Before attending the seminar I felt very drawn to Doreen Virtue. Truth be told, I had little to no understanding of angels and how they work, but my spirit guides told me to go see Doreen so who am I to argue? My guides also told me she would help confirm some things for me … more about that below. Doreen’s energy is so loving and peaceful that I could just spend hours in her presence. I learned so much from her, and by the end of the workshop I had a much greater understanding of the power of angels and how to call upon them. I really can’t say enough about Doreen. She’s one of those special, rare people who really walks her talk and is spreading love and magic throughout the world.

Dr. Wayne Dyer - Inspiration: Your Ultimate Calling

Steve: I was looking forward to seeing Wayne speak again after being deeply affected by his keynote at the 2004 conference. I wasn’t disappointed. While his speaking skills could use some polish (lots of ums and ahs, constant pacing around the stage, excessive hand gesturing), he makes up for it in spades by being an outstanding storyteller. He connected equally well with heads and hearts and came across as very genuine, especially through his abundant use of self-deprecating humor. He spoke on the topics from his latest book Inspiration, which I’m currently reading, and from a new book he’s writing based on the Tao Te Ching (one of my all-time favorite books). I found his speech organization to be a little muddled, possibly because he was using brand new material, but I took his main point to be: our lives are a reflection of our thoughts. One thing that I felt hurt him was the room we were in. Instead of an enclosed hotel ballroom like many other speakers enjoyed, he was in a massive warehouse-like room with a concrete floor, a very high ceiling crisscrossed by pipes, and large open spaces on all four sides… the kind of convention center area where you’d normally see rows upon rows of exhibitors. This affected the clarity of the audio and pulled the energy in the room right up towards the ceiling (not to mention that it’s poor feng shui). With thousands of attendees, he needed a really big room — this audience wouldn’t fit in a regular ballroom. Despite these conditions he received a standing ovation, which I think was well-deserved. I’d like to see a venue change next year if possible, since these are not the most favorable speaking conditions, especially for a keynoter like Wayne who thrives on building and maintaining a strong audience connection. In 2004 the main keynotes were held in the Cashman Center auditorium downtown, a fully enclosed room which was much better all around.

As part of his presentation, Wayne invited his daughter Skye Dyer up to do some a cappela singing. She was even better this time than when I first heard her in 2004 (I bought one of her CDs back then). Wayne also brought up Immaculée Ilibagiza, who told a heartfelt story about how she survived the Rwandan Holocaust by hiding in a bathroom with seven other women for 90 days. When she came out, she weighed only 65 pounds. She has a book out with the full story called Left to Tell.

Erin: This was the first time I saw Dr. Dyer speak in public. He has a beautiful spirit. He exudes peace, love, compassion, and gratitude. He is a true inspiration, and if you haven’t read or listened to any of his work, do yourself a favor and buy something of his. I especially enjoy listening to his voice in the car on a CD. Here’s a man with a strong message who knows exactly how to give it so that people will be most receptive to it. That’s power.

Immaculée’s story of survival was so heart wrenching. I was choking back tears. I felt anger that there are people in the world who would so willingly participate in genocide. And I felt hope that there are people like Immaculée teaching the world about compassion. It was clear that Dr. Dyer was also highly affected by this woman’s courage and faith in the face of such fear and terror.

Caroline Myss - Entering the Castle

Steve: Caroline Myss (pronounced “mace”) presented a two-hour morning keynote on answering your soul’s calling. Unfortunately, her speaking style was a big turnoff for me. I’d have to describe it as borderline angry. I felt she was scolding us instead of genuinely communicating with us. Her speech structure was also disjointed and difficult to follow. She’d interrupt one story to begin another halfway through, and her transitions from one subtopic to the next were unclear at best. I remember her having this same problem at the 2004 conference. She voiced strong opinions about what qualified as a spiritual experience, but I found myself largely disagreeing with her. At one point she exclaimed, “A massage is not a spiritual experience!” I understood the point she was trying to make — that merely doing things that are loosely associated with spirituality can’t substitute for genuine spiritual growth. But I regard life itself as a spiritual experience, and a massage is part of that experience, so I can’t say I got anything helpful from her message. She appeared almost frustrated while on stage, in sharp contrast to other speakers such as Doreen Virtue who seemed relaxed and open. Consequently, it didn’t surprise me that dozens of people left Caroline’s keynote early (I didn’t see this happen with any other speaker).

Erin: I had a little trouble connecting to Caroline’s message in this keynote address. Her energy just didn’t resonate with me, so I found it hard to understand her points. Although she had some good information to share, I think she could have gotten her message across a little better if she had realized that her audience was much more spiritually aware than average. I came away from this keynote feeling defensive and annoyed instead of loved and inspired.

Gary Renard - The Disappearance of the Universe

Steve: I wasn’t originally planning to see Gary speak. However, a strange series of synchronicities led me to go, and in the first few minutes a synchronicity occurred that made it clear I was supposed to be there. (I had a lot of that going on throughout the weekend and was guided to attend certain sessions.) Gary gave a humorous and inspiring talk about the topics in his book The Disappearance of the Universe, which builds on ideas from A Course in Miracles. He spoke at length about forgiveness as it relates to the true nature of reality and used examples from the teachings of Jesus, including the Gospel of Thomas. I found his relaxed speaking style disarmingly genuine, and his organization was easy to follow. His content was also extremely thought-provoking, and I took three full pages of notes, so I can experiment with his ideas on my own. Despite some major audio problems that came up during his presentation, he adapted amazingly well and even played off those problems to illustrate some of his points. That really won him the audience in what could have otherwise been a disaster. I haven’t read his book yet, but I’ve already ordered a copy.

Erin: When Gary first took the stage, I sensed he was a little new to speaking and just a wee bit nervous. But what I loved about him was his passion for his subject. Here is a man who has a message and is doing what he is supposed to do with it, writing and speaking about it. He inspired me to begin reading A Course in Miracles and his own book, The Disappearance of the Universe. He reminds me a little of myself, which is why I think I resonated with him so much. He had a very spiritual experience, listened to what the spirits were telling him, and took action to get the message to all of us. He also had a great mix of logic and spiritual energy that will help him reach men as well as women. He’s one to watch.

Esther and Jerry Hicks - The Amazing Power of Deliberate Intent

Steve: After this presentation I could barely get my jaw to go back up again. I’ve never seen anything like it. Jerry gave a very humorous opening, while Esther did most of the talking in this session… or at least her physical body did. This was a channeled session, so Esther tuned into a group of higher beings named Abraham who spoke through her. She (they?) spoke at a very rapid rate and didn’t skip a beat — no ums or ahs or stutters. She lectured for about an hour and then did about an hour of Q&A. I was writing almost constantly and took copious notes. Regardless of whether or not you went into this session believing in channeling, the information was simply amazing. It was consistent with other channeled material I’d read. I heard ideas that were similar to those that have been floating around in my own head for some time, only this material was much more structured and congruent. I was hearing things I could imagine myself writing about a few years hence. This was like an acceleration for me. There were dozens of profound points made during this session, but I’d have to say that the main point was that we attract into our life those circumstances that are congruent with who we are. Everything we experience in life is a result of our current level of thinking, which acts like a magnet to draw people, objects, and situations into our lives. So if you become ill, it’s because your thoughts resonate with that illness. But we can change our reality by changing our thoughts. However, there’s a bit of a drag from past thoughts which are still manifesting, so if we want to reach a new level of existence (better health, more financial abundance, etc.), we must first elevate our thinking and hold it there long enough, and soon the circumstances congruent with that level of thinking will begin to manifest. I found this to be very true because I’ve been testing it a lot over the past year, and it’s basically the core of what I wrote about in my very first article on this site, The Courage to Live Consciously. When I got home, I listened to a free CD they provided to conference attendees and took another four pages of notes. I also bought two of their books: Ask and It Is Given and The Amazing Power of Deliberate Intent.

Erin: I really didn’t know what to expect when I sat down at this lecture, though friends had told me to prepare to be amazed. When Esther began channeling Abraham I thought to myself, “Either she is the most practiced and rehearsed speaker on the planet, or she really is channeling a higher energy being.” By the end of the session I was in awe of Esther and Abraham and believe that she is a legitimate channeler. If you ever get a chance to witness them in action, take it. The message Abraham is trying to bring to us is equally amazing. Read their books or get their CDs to understand what I’m talking about.

Loretta LaRoche - Squeeze the Day!

Steve: Loretta is a delightful comedienne who blends side-splitting humor with motivation. She had us laughing at our fears, worries, and failures. Loretta’s comedic timing was impeccable, and her Italian New Yorker voice was the perfect delivery vehicle. She clearly tailored her material to the mostly female audience, so I didn’t relate to her jokes as well as most of the women did, but the room was constantly filled with laughter. She performed largely the same material I saw at the 2004 conference, but despite the fact that it wasn’t new for me, I still laughed quite a bit. I’d love to see her back again next year, although I’d prefer to see all new material.

Erin: Listening to Loretta LaRoche was an incredibly energizing experience. This is a woman who knows how to connect with people and help them feel completely understood. She uses humor as a way to help people de-stress; a highly valuable tool! If I were ever in a hospital bed, I’d want Loretta by my side just chatting with me. Her insights into human behavior, especially that of women, is dead-on. Since we saw her late in the evening after a very long day I was especially glad that she was so amusing.

Doreen Virtue, Ph.D - Goddesses and Angels

Steve: In this two-hour keynote, Doreen showed slides of various goddesses and angels from a variety of cultures and described their unique roles and characteristics. This included the archangels Michael, Gabriel, Raphael, and Uriel as well as over a dozen goddesses, including Haniel, Sophiel, Ariel, Isis, and Dana. I’d heard most of this previously from my CD of Doreen’s 2004 presentation, but I enjoyed the refresher… and especially Doreen’s great sense of humor.

Doreen spent the last 30 minutes doing a handful of angel readings, and Erin happened to be selected (we both sensed that was supposed to happen). I was impressed by Doreen’s accuracy, and I’m sure Erin will relay the details in her review. Doreen also gave Erin a free copy of her book Goddesses and Angels.

After the conference Erin and I started noticing overt signs from Lakshmi, the Hindu goddess of wealth and beauty. I think she must be on our side, since she keeps popping up as greater financial abundance flows effortlessly into our lives. Right now we seem to have no money worries at all. Whatever we spend just comes back to us in multiples. Needless to say, we’ve become pretty fond of Lakshmi. If you’re currently having financial problems, it certainly can’t hurt to ask for her help and guidance. :)

Erin: Remembering that my spirits told me Doreen would confirm some questions I had about my own psychic abilities, I attended her Sunday morning keynote with a heightened sense of anticipation. I assumed something she said would be a synchronicity for me and that it would be the confirmation I was looking for. But the universe wasn’t letting me off that easily. When Doreen opened the floor to questions, I tentatively raised my hand. Out of thousands of people, she selected to read for me. I was actually trembling as I stood up and realized this was it; my confirmation was coming. Doreen said that the spirits have been keeping me really busy in my dreams (very true) and that I wake exhausted in the morning (also true). She saw me using a journal to record the spiritual messages I was receiving (which I already do), and told me to keep writing them because in a year they could be turned into a book (which was something I had considered doing and now received confirmation about). She said she also saw me doing workshops and using my psychic abilities to help people connect with themselves and the universe (which is why I’ve been going to Toastmasters so I can learn to be comfortable speaking in front of people) and told me I was on the right track and to keep listening to what the spirits were telling me. She then gave me one of her books, Goddesses and Angels, which is the exact book I was planning to purchase. Thank you, Doreen! I was floating on air for the next hour, unable to believe my good fortune in having her confirm for me something my own spirits had been telling me. Her reading put me over the edge in terms of quashing any doubts I had about my path and my abilities.

Colette Baron-Reid - I’ve Seen the Future… and So Can You!

Steve: I attended this session alone, while Erin split off to see John Holland (see below). I’d honestly never heard of Colette before this event, but I was led to this session by yet another synchronicity. By the end of the session, it was clear that I was definitely meant to be there. Colette calls herself an intuitive counselor, and she noted during the session that she dislikes the word psychic because of all the negative associations to it. She was a lively, enthusiastic, and extremely funny speaker. The word hyper might be more accurate though. She won the audience over in the first few minutes and never lost us. She divided this two-hour session about 50-50 between lecture and giving readings. I wouldn’t really call it a lecture though because her style is so friendly and open, it was more like having a conversation with a close friend. She told some great stories, including what it was like for her to overcome an alcohol addiction and how she gradually came to embrace her spiritual path. We also did an exercise to see auras, which I was able to see, but I had already learned how to do this years ago. However, she was able to change her aura by expanding it and even leaving it in place while she moved away from it — that’s something I’d never seen before. The most amazing part of this session though was when she had us pair up and attempt to give each other intuitive readings. I paired up with a young woman next to me that I’d never met. First, she gave me some info which didn’t resonate with me much; however, the very next day when I got home I received a piece of mail with the exact images she told me she was seeing. I decided to use the techniques I learned in Doreen Virtue’s workshop, and I was able to give her an amazingly accurate reading that stunned us both. I not only felt the message intuitively (clairsentience), but I also saw a being giving it to me and could describe him physically in detail (clairvoyance), which the woman verified as accurate because it was someone she knew. I left this session with the feeling that my whole world had been turned upside down. My “sixth sense” was definitely switched on.

As soon as I came out of Colette’s session, I saw Erin talking with another woman at our pre-arranged meet up location. Erin met her in John Holland’s session and said she had the intuitive sense that I should do a reading for this woman. The woman seemed open to it, so I scanned her to see if I could pick up anything, and within seconds I began sensing a presence to her left. By focusing my attention on it, I was able to see a man there (clairvoyance), which turned out to be her deceased uncle. I gave her a detailed physical description of what he looked like, which she verified was accurate. He was feeding me various images, and as I relayed what I was seeing, this woman was clearly affected by them. In addition to seeing images, I was also getting messages to convey to her. I wasn’t hearing them in my mind; I just intuitively knew what I was supposed to say, so it was claircognizance (knowing) but not clairaudience (hearing). I was even shocking myself because this connection was flowing through me so easily and clearly. The message was a positive and encouraging one which really resonated with this woman.

Three times I gave readings, and three times they came out accurate and had a powerful impact on the person I read for. But it wasn’t just about going with my first impressions, making educated guesses, or spurting out vague fluff that could match with anyone. I really felt an entity’s presence when I did this, and I picked up on specific information that I don’t see how I could have otherwise known — these were all complete strangers I’d just met. It’s like I’m listening with my third eye (i.e. sixth sense) and just relaying what I’m picking up. I’m definitely wanting to practice this more to see where it leads. I have no idea what the boundaries are yet. In fact, Erin and I have a local psychic friend who’s agreed to help us further our development in this area.

Whenever I think my life couldn’t get any more non-mainstream than it already is, the universe just keeps proving me wrong.

John Holland - A Journey into the World of a Medium

Erin: John Holland is a medium; he talks to the dead. In this lecture his goal was to explain how mediumship works and help us connect with our own deceased loved ones. He did a great job explaining his own journey, and he also helped us understand how to see signs that our loved ones survive death and try to communicate to us from the other side.

I specifically decided to attend this lecture because I am in the beginning phases of being a medium myself. I’m primarily clairaudient, which means I can hear spirits, angels, higher energy beings, and the dearly departed. But recently I’ve asked my spirits to help me see instead of just hear so that I could have the confirmation that I need to be able to do readings for others. They responded quickly with advice on how to do that, and in a matter of weeks I began seeing as well. Hearing John’s tales helped me realize that I have a similar gift that I can start using to help people reconnect with their loved ones, get back on their true spiritual path, and receive wisdom from higher beings.

I’m in training right now to enhance and increase my connection to the other side and I’m sure John’s book, Born Knowing, will help me with that. If you’re at all interested in mediumship or communing with your loved ones who have crossed over, John’s work is an excellent guide. He’s funny too… a huge plus in my book!

Sylvia Browne - If You Could See What I See — Plus Live Audience Questions

Steve: This was the first time I’ve seen psychic Sylvia Browne in person, and I’ve never read any of her books, so I went into this session not quite knowing what to expect. I had heard she tends to polarize people to either love her or hate her. Like Colette, Sylvia did about half lecture and half psychic readings. Sylvia’s no-nonsense style and sharp wit quickly won me over, probably because it’s similar to the “tough love” style I like to use myself, like a warrior’s compassion. I didn’t expect she’d be so funny, but she had us all in stitches. Sylvia’s readings are apparently so popular they had a lottery system to see who’d get a reading — the going rate on her web site for a 20-30 minute reading is $700. If your ticket number was called, you’d be allowed to ask one and only one question of Sylvia, and she’d give you about a 30-second response. The readings were sort of like a psychic assembly line. As far as I know, there were no limitations on what you could ask her. She never rejected anyone’s question, although you could tell by her reaction that she felt some people weren’t asking great questions. Several people asked very specific questions, and Sylvia didn’t hesitate to answer with details, including names and locations when necessary. Even though the odds of getting a reading were long due to the sheer number of attendees, I had the strong intuitive impression my number was going to be called. I love new experiences, especially such non-mainstream ones as this, so I was certainly open to it.

My impression was correct, and soon I was standing at the mic. I already had my question picked in advance, so I asked Sylvia, “Can you give me some clarity about continuing to fulfill my life’s purpose, especially with respect to serving others?” Those were my exact words as I recall them, and they were the only words I spoke — I gave her no other information. She probably couldn’t even see me well due to the stage lighting. After staring into space for a few seconds, Sylvia replied that I’d be speaking in front of people, more specifically… teaching people about spirituality. She also said she saw me doing work of a holistic nature (holistic means that you focus on the whole being instead of analyzing its constituent parts). Then she paused and exclaimed, “God, you’ve got a lot on your plate!” That made me laugh because it’s so true. Finally, she told me she saw me getting into healing work further down the road. I believe by this she meant healing people’s physical ailments, not just something like helping people deal with their emotions.

As for whether or not her reading was accurate, I think she pegged me pretty well. The predictions she made for other people wouldn’t have fit me, like “You’re going to work in real estate development.” But her predictions for me are either already in the process of manifesting, or they’re natural extensions of my work. I’ve already been teaching about spirituality on this web site — it even has its own category, and that’s something I’ve been planning to do a lot more of. My work is clearly holistic because I address all aspects of personal development, not just a small slice like productivity. I already speak in front of people locally, and I’m working on expanding that (I’ve been in Toastmasters for nearly two years now). The only real up-in-the-air element that Sylvia provided is whether or not I’ll get into healing work down the road. And that’s a possibility because two women that have been taking on bigger roles in my life are both Reiki masters, and I recently watched a few DVDs on Reiki and another on Qi Gong. Of course, by getting this reading in advance, there’s no way to know when it actually occurs if her reading was predictive or causal or a mixture of both. But for now I intend to proceed on course, albeit one which has taken a very unexpected turn. I enjoyed my 30 seconds with Sylvia, and not everyone seemed to like the answers they got as much as I did. She even poked a few jibes at people. I came away with the impression that she does indeed have well-developed psychic abilities. Personally I think her style suits her well because there’s a tendency for people to become addicted to psychic advice and give up their free will, and of course that isn’t why we’re here.

Erin: I have mixed feelings about Sylvia Browne. On the one hand, I think she is a legitimate and gifted psychic. But on the other, she doesn’t use the love energy to get her point across that Doreen Virtue uses. Sylvia tells it like it is, and if you ask a question she thinks is kind of stupid, she’ll tell you (in front of thousands of people no less). I did find her to be extremely amusing and down to earth. This is a woman who does not put on airs; her confidence in herself and her abilities is staggering. She used a raffle ticket process to select audience members to read for, so I used all my psychic connections — calling in all sorts of favors with the spirits — to get her to select Steve’s ticket. And she did. Lucky for Steve he asked a good question, and Sylvia seemed quite impressed with Steve’s future. She said she saw him speaking to masses of people about spirituality. And she also acknowledged that he seemed to have quite a bit on his future plate. If you know Steve, you don’t have to be psychic to know that’s true. I have a new respect for Sylvia and a great deal of empathy for what she must have to deal with.

Wrap-Up

Steve: The primary impact this conference had on me was to deepen my faith in the work I’m doing. Topics like time management are easy to write about publicly, but there are certain aspects of personal development and especially spiritual growth I’ve been hesitant to address due to the social acceptability factor. I feel more comfortable writing about them now because I’ve had the chance to meet so many people with experiences similar to mine. Topics like psychic phenomena typically meet with a lot of closed-mindedness, as images of phony fortune tellers and gullible suckers spring to mind. But I’ve no doubt there’s more to life than our apparent physical existence, not because I’ve been persuaded by others but because of countless personal experiences I’ve had… the kind you’d be hesitant to tell your own spouse about (unless you had my spouse, that is). I could totally relate to the speakers who struggled to reconcile their inner experiences with the world at large. But at some point on this path, you eventually have to say, “Alright… I’ll do it!” Truth is truth, whether people believe you or not.

Obviously some people are very resistant to the idea that anyone can be psychic, but I think that’s largely a result of misinformation and lack of personal experience. I always believed psychic stuff was pure fakery until I began to seriously look into it in the mid-90s, endeavoring to put my skepticism on hold while not lowering myself into the real gullibility. I wouldn’t expect anyone to believe this though until they’ve had similar experiences, but I know that many have had experiences they just don’t feel comfortable discussing publicly. Initially I found it almost impossible to reconcile what I was experiencing with my then-current world view. Some events literally broke my understanding of reality, and it was a real struggle to let go of what I thought was real and rebuild a new understanding that could explain my actual experiences. The upside though was that my new “map of reality” gave me much better results, including greater happiness, a less stressful life, and financial abundance. So ultimately I see spiritual exploration to be a cornerstone of personal development.

Fortunately, I don’t think it’s necessary to put one’s intellect on hold when exploring spiritual matters – there’s no need to be gullible, blind, or stupid about it. In the years ahead, I’ll endeavor to explore psychic development from an intellectual standpoint, one that will hopefully open you to empowering new experiences without putting you in a padded room.

Erin: If you ever have a chance to go to the I Can Do It! seminar I’d really encourage you to go. Expose yourself to high energy people who radiate with love and hope, and you will see how it’s possible to change our world for the better. Visit the Hay House website and purchase some books or audio programs and immerse yourself in the energy of these wonderful authors. What an uplifting, energizing, and magical experience it was for me to attend. I will definitely be going again.

10 Tips for College Students


IN COLLEGE ,GUIDANCE COMMING YOUR WAY

After writing the time management article “Do It Now,” which was based on my experience of graduating college in three semesters with two degrees, I received many follow-up questions from students asking for more advice. Here are 10 tips to help you create a productive and memorable college experience… and most of all, to deeply enjoy this time in your life.

1. Answer the question, “Why am I going to college?”

Many college students really don’t have a clear reason for being there other than the fact that they don’t know what else to do yet. They inherit goals from family and peers which aren’t truly their own. That was how I started college. Is this you as well?

As I’ve stated previously on this blog, the three-semester deal wasn’t my first time at college. I had previously gone to college when I wasn’t in the right frame of mind to be there. In high school I was a straight-A honors student, President of the math club, and captain of the Academic Decathlon team. That momentum carried me forward, and without really ever deciding if it was what I wanted, I found myself with four more years of school ahead of me. It seemed like a good idea at the time, but my heart just wasn’t in it. Consequently, I sabotaged myself in a big way. I blew off my classes and got an education in parties and alcohol. Apparently some administrator was biased against students whose GPA starts with a decimal point, so I was soon expelled.

That experience sent me into a bit of a tailspin. I was in a funk for about six months, mostly just playing video games. Finally in an attempt to re-ground myself, I got a retail sales job and tried to stay under the radar while taking some time to “find myself.” That was the time I began developing an interest in personal development, and boy did it pay off. A year later I was ready to go back to college, and I started over as a freshman. But this time I knew why I was there. I wanted to be a programmer, and I wanted to earn my Computer Science degree (I later added the Math degree). But it was more than that. I knew I was capable of a lot more, and I wanted to push myself. I wanted to create the richest experience I could. For me that meant a really dense schedule.

Your goals for college will likely be different than mine. What are they? Why are you there? If you don’t know — and I mean really know it in your gut — then you have no focal point for your experience. You may as well not even be there. What is it about your experience that resonates as true for you? What are you there to learn? What do you want to experience?

2. Imagine your ideal college experience.

Once you know why you’re going to college, imagine your ideal outcome. Let it flow outward from the reason you’re there. Whether you’ve already started college or not, stop and simply write down some attributes of your ideal experience. Describe it in as much detail as you can.

Before I returned to school, I spent hours visualizing the kind of experience I wanted to have. I saw myself being challenged but managing it easily and without stress. I saw myself making new friends. I saw myself having a really great time. Most of all I imagined a very balanced experience — a blend of academics, activities, socialization, and fun. The keyword I used was “richness.”

This was a really important step. I didn’t understand the mechanism at the time, but I was pre-programming myself to succeed. Whenever I encountered obstacles, my ideal vision was so much more compelling that I was always able to find a way to get what I wanted. I became a co-creator of my experience instead of a passive victim of it.

Visualization allows you to make mistakes in advance. If you can’t get a clear visualization, your experience is likely to be just as fuzzy. Debug your visualization until it inspires you.

Real life will of course turn out differently than you visualize. The point of visualization isn’t to predict the future or to restrict your freedom to decide later. The point is to give you more clarity for making decisions right now. Your ideal scene serves as a map that can guide you through the quagmire of options.

3. Take at least one extra class each semester.

Students are taught that 12-15 semester units (3-5 classes) is a “full” schedule. But a schedule that light is hardly full. A person with a full-time job will put in a good 40+ hours per week, and students enjoy every possible vacation day plus spring break, winter break, and summer vacation. If you want to spend four or more years in college, add more degrees or get a job on the side. Don’t feel you have to go at a snail’s pace just because everyone else does.

Now you might be thinking that 12-15 units are supposed to equate to a 40-hour week with all the outside homework and studying, but that’s only going to happen if you do things very inefficiently (which sadly is what most people do). If you follow some of the time-saving tips later in this article, then 15 units should only require a few additional hours outside of class to complete assignments. Obviously I couldn’t have taken 31-39 units per semester if it meant doing double those hours in outside homework. I didn’t succeed by overworking myself.

If you’re an above average student, you can certainly handle an above average schedule. Sometimes we don’t know what we can handle until we push ourselves a little. If you think you can handle 15 units, take 18 or 21. You can easily shave a year off your schedule. Or you may be able to add a minor or a double major.

What about prerequisites? For the most part I simply ignored them, and fortunately at my school they weren’t enforced too well. I found that most of the time a prerequisite is listed, it’s geared towards below average students. Don’t let pointless bureaucracy slow you down if you want to graduate sooner. There’s always a way around it — it’s usually just a matter of getting some random form signed by someone who’s too bored to care either way. A smile and a compliment go a long way.

By the law of forced efficiency, if you put more things on your plate, you’ll find a way to get them done with the time you have available. So if you don’t challenge yourself a little, that extra time will slip through your fingers.

I think the real benefit to a dense schedule isn’t that you’ll graduate sooner. The real benefit is that you’ll enjoy a richer experience. Taking five classes instead of four means more learning, more achievement, and more friends. And what employer wouldn’t be attracted to a student who graduated more quickly than his/her peers? This sort of thing sure looks great on a resume.

4. Set clear goals for each class.

Decide what you want out of each specific class. Is this a subject you’re eager to learn? Do you want to target this teacher for a letter of recommendation? Is this a required class you must take but which doesn’t otherwise interest you?

My goals for each class determined how often I would show up, whether I’d sit in the front or the back, how actively I’d participate, and what kind of relationship I’d seek to establish with the teacher.

For some classes I wanted to master the material. For others I just wanted an A grade. And for others I wanted to set myself up for glowing letters of recommendations from enthusiastic teachers whose native language was English (so the letters would be highly readable and positive).

My mom has been a college math professor for decades. At home she’d comment about students she barely knew who’d ask her for letters of recommendation. Many times she had to turn them down because she just didn’t have anything positive to say in the letter. On the other hand, she was happy to support those students who put in a serious effort. Most teachers want to help you, but you have to let them see your strengths. Even if you don’t get an A in a particular class, you can still give a teacher plenty of material for a great letter of recommendation if you participate actively and show respect toward the teacher.

This is not about manipulating your professors into lying on your behalf. The simple truth is that the quality of a letter of recommendation ultimately comes down to how much a teacher respects you. Don’t put yourself in the desperate situation of having to request a letter of recommendation from a teacher who doesn’t even remember you — or worse, one who thinks poorly of you. Set yourself up for success in advance.

One of my professors learned about my packed academic schedule and expressed interest in learning how I was managing it. We had a very nice conversation about time management techniques. I had several programming classes with this professor and aced them all. I happened to think he was an excellent teacher, I had great respect for him, and I quite enjoyed his classes. When it came time to ask him for a letter of recommendation, he wrote one of the most glowing letters imaginable (”best student I’ve encountered in my career,” etc.).

On the other hand, I had certain teachers who were downright lousy. I ditched their classes often and learned the material from the textbook. Obviously I didn’t seek out their assistance down the road.

Sometimes you’ll achieve your goals; sometimes you won’t. Even if you do your best, you may still fall short. You may encounter teachers that are unfair, lazy, sexist, racist, or otherwise incompetent. My wife had an overtly sexist professor who would never give a female student a grade higher than a B, no matter how well she did. He would say things like, “If you’re a male, you’ll have to work hard in this class. If you’re a female, just come by my office after hours.” Eventually sexual harrassment charges were filed against him. You’ll have to pick your battles. Some are worth fighting; others are best ignored. Having clear goals will help you decide which is which.

5. Triage ruthlessly.

You don’t need to put an equal amount of effort into every class. Inject extra effort when it’s important to you, but feel free to back off a little from classes that are a low priority based on your specific goals. For me this was an important way to conserve energy. I couldn’t play full out in every class, or I’d burn out, so I invested my energy where it mattered most.

In every student’s schedule, some classes are critical while others are almost trivial. In a typical week, I’d usually ditch around 40% of my classes because I just didn’t need to be there. For some classes attendance was necessary, but for others it didn’t make much difference. I could simply get the notes from another student if needed, or I could learn the material from the textbook. If it wasn’t necessary for me to attend a particular class (based on my goals for that class), I usually ditched it. That saved me a lot of time and kept me from having to sit in class all day long. Sometimes I’d just grab some food with friends to give myself an extra break.

I would also triage individual assignments. If I felt an assignment was lame, pointless, or unnecessarily tedious, and if it wouldn’t have too negative an impact on my grade, I would actually decline to do it. One time I was assigned a tedious paper that represented 10% of my grade. I really didn’t want to do it, and it required a lot more hours than I felt it was worth. I was headed for an A in the class, and if I didn’t do this assignment, I’d drop to an A-. So I respectfully told the professor I was declining the assignment and that I thought it was a fair trade to receive an A- in order to reinvest those hours elsewhere. He already knew me and understood my reasons. He gave me an A-, and I was fine with that. It was indeed a fair trade. In fact, looking back I wish I’d done this sort of thing more often.

Sometimes teachers get a little too homework happy and dole out assignments that really don’t justify the effort. You’re in charge of your academic experience though, not your teachers. Don’t feel you must do every assignment just because the teacher feels it’s a good idea. You be the judge in accordance with your own reasons for being there. Just be sure to consider the consequences of your decision.

By stealing time from low priority assignments, I was able to invest more time in the real gems. Some creative assignments taught me a great deal. I usually hated group projects with a passion, but there was one particular group project where the team really gelled. I enjoyed it tremendously and learned a lot from it.

A cool triage technique I used was timeboxing. I would decide how much time an assignment warranted, and then I’d do the best job I could within the allotted time. So if I had to write a 10-page research page on European history, I might devote 8 hours to it total. I’d slice up the 8 hours into topic selection, planning, library research, outlining, writing, and editing, and then I’d do my best to stay within those times. This was a great way to keep me from overengineering an assignment that didn’t need it.

In a way this was my own method of academic load balancing. Some of your assignments will be unbalanced in the sense that they seem to require an unreasonable amount of effort compared to how much of your grade they represent or how much you expect to benefit from completing them. Sometimes I would decide that the effort to write an A-paper just wasn’t warranted. Maybe I’d estimate it would take me 20 hours to do an A job but only 10 hours to do a B job. And if the assignment was only 10% of my grade, perhaps I could accept a B there. I often thought in this Machiavellian fashion back then, and often to my surprise I found that my B-quality papers would come back with As anyway.

6. Get an early start to each day.

I’ve written previously about the benefits of becoming an early riser. I wasn’t getting up at 5am when I was in college, but I’d usually get up around 6-7am. I found that getting an early start each day helped me get a lot more done, not just in the morning but throughout the day. I began each day with a 25-minute run followed by a shower and breakfast. This simple morning routine got me out the door feeling alert and energized.

I’d be lying if I said I got up early because I wanted to. It was really out of necessity. I had many morning classes, including 7:30am classes one semester. But I’m glad I did that because if I didn’t have those morning classes, I just would have slept more than I needed to. Even if you hate morning classes, you may find as I did that you’re a lot more productive if you schedule them anyway.

7. Reclaim wasted time during your classes.

Let’s face it. Not every class is going to require your utmost concentration. Sometimes teachers babble. Sometimes they reiterate what you already know. What percentage of class time requires your complete, focused attention? For some classes it’s 90%. For others it’s 20%. If you aren’t actively learning during class, you’re wasting time. If a class is really challenging, sit in the front and soak up every word. But if a class isn’t challenging you, then sit in the back, do homework for other classes, and pop your head up every once in a while to see if there’s anything worth jotting down. Always have a book open, so when your hippie professor goes off on yet another nostalgia trip about the 60s, you’ll have something productive to do.

This was a surprisingly great cure for boredom. If the professor was droning on and putting everyone to sleep, I’d be working on programming assignments. I used to write them out on paper and then go to the computer lab between classes and type them up. That way I didn’t have to spend much time outside class in the lab, sometimes just 10-15 minutes if my program worked the first time.

You’ll be amazed at how much time you can free up using this method. I was able to complete the bulk of my assignments in class (but usually not in the classes in which the tasks were assigned). If you’re in school right now, I challenge you to see how much extra homework you can complete during your normal class time today. Then estimate how many hours you’ll save every week from this practice. It really adds up.

You can’t concentrate at peak efficiency continuously, so be sure to take breaks. When you need a break though, take a real break. I used to meditate or nap on the grass between classes in order to recharge myself. I’d use my wristwatch alarm to signal when it was time to get up and go again. Those breaks were very restorative, and I could go to the next class and work full out once again. I never worked flat out all day long. I worked in waves between total concentration and total relaxation, cycling many times per day.

8. Learn material the very first time it’s presented.

One of the biggest time wasters in school is having to relearn something you didn’t learn properly the first time. When students say they’re studying, most of the time they’re making up for a previous failure to learn the material.

In software development it’s well known that bugs should be fixed as soon as possible after they’re introduced. Waiting to fix a bug near the end of a project can take 50x as much effort as it would take to fix the bug the first time it was noticed. Failing to learn what you’re supposedly taught each day is a serious bug. Don’t try to pile new material on top of an unstable foundation, since it will take even more time to rebuild it later.

If you don’t understand something you were taught in class today, treat it as a bug that must be fixed ASAP. Do not put it off. Do not pile new material on top of it. If you don’t understand a word, a concept, or a lesson, then drop everything and do whatever it takes to learn it before you continue on. Ask questions in class, get a fellow student to explain it to you, read and re-read the textbook, and/or visit the professor during office hours, but learn it no matter what.

I was normally an ace in math, perhaps because my mother is a college math professor who was taking calculus classes while I was in the womb. Plus my father was an aerospace engineer, so I’ve certainly got the genes for it. But there were a couple topics I found incomprehensible when they were first introduced: eigenvalues and eigenvectors. I’m a highly visual learner, which is normally a strength academically, but I found these abstract concepts difficult to visualize. Many of my classmates found them confusing too. I invested the extra effort required to grasp these concepts and earned an A in the class because I treated my confusion as a bug that had to be fixed immediately. Those students who allowed their confusion to linger found themselves becoming more and more lost as the course progressed, and cramming at the end couldn’t bestow complete comprehension. Just like programming bugs, confusion multiplies if left untreated, so stamp it out as early as possible. If you’re confused about anything you’re being taught, you’ve got a bug that needs fixing. Don’t move on until you can honestly say to yourself, “Yes, I understand that… what’s next?”

Ideally there should be no need to study outside of class, at least in the sense of relearning material you didn’t learn the first time. You can review old material to refresh your memory, but you shouldn’t have to devote a minute of your time to learning something that was taught a month or two earlier.

During finals I was probably the least-stressed student of all. I didn’t have to study because by the time the final exam came up, in my mind the course was already over. The test was just a formality. While everyone else was cramming, I’d be at the arcade playing video games. I’d already learned the material and completed all the assignments (at least the ones I was going to complete). At most I’d just spend some time reviewing my notes to refresh the material the night before the test. Isn’t this how academic learning is supposed to work? Otherwise what’s the point of showing up to class for an entire semester?

During each semester ask yourself this question: Am I ready to be tested right now on everything that has been taught up to this point? If your answer is ever “no,” then you know you’re falling behind, and you need to catch up immediately. Ideally you should be able to answer “yes” to this question at least once a week for every subject.

Falling behind even a little is an enormous stressor and time waster. First, you have to go back and re-learn the old material when the rest of the class has already moved on. Secondly, you may not learn the new material as well if it builds on the old material because you lack a solid foundation, so you just end up falling further and further behind. Then when you come to the end of the semester, you end up having to re-learn everything you were supposed to learn. But because you cram at the last minute, after finals you forget everything anyway. What’s the point of that silliness? It’s like overspending on a credit card that charges you 25% interest. Eventually you’ll have to pay up, and it will cost you a lot more time in the long run.

Put in the effort to learn your material well enough to get As in all your classes. It will pay off. Much of the material you learn will build on earlier material. If you get As in your freshman courses, you’ll be well prepared to pile on new material in your sophomore year. But if you get Cs that first year, you’re already going into your second year with an unstable foundation, making it that much harder to bring your grades up and really master the material. Make straight As your goal every semester. In the long run, it’s much easier. I found that C students tended to work a lot harder than I did, especially in their junior and senior years, because they were always playing catch up. Despite my packed schedule, it wasn’t stressful for me because I kept on top of every subject. Consequently, I had plenty of time for fun while other students experienced lots of stress because they constantly felt unprepared.

9. Master advanced memory techniques.

One of the keys to learning material the first time it’s taught is to train yourself in advanced memory techniques. I used them often in classes that required rote memorization of certain facts, including names, dates, and mathematical formulas. If a teacher wrote something on the board that had to be memorized verbatim for an upcoming exam, I’d memorize it then and there. Then I wouldn’t have to go back and study it later.

I’m sure you’ve encountered simple mnemonic techniques such as using the phrase “Every good boy does fine” to memorize the musical notes E, G, B, D, and F. Those kinds of tricks work well in certain situations, but they’re so grammar school. There are far more efficient visual techniques. The two I relied on most in school were chaining and pegging.

It’s beyond the scope of this article to explain these techniques in detail, but you can simply visit this site to learn all about them. Or you can pick up a book on memory improvement, such as The Memory Book by Harry Lorayne. I recommend learning from a book because then you’ll build a solid foundation step by step.

These techniques will allow you to memorize information very rapidly. For example, with pegging I could usually memorize a list of 20 items in about 90 seconds with perfect recall even weeks later. Experts at this are faster. Anyone can do it — it’s just a matter of training yourself.

I still use these techniques today. Chaining allows me to memorize my speeches visually. When I give a speech, my imagination runs through the visual movie I’ve created while I select words on the fly to fit the images. It’s like narrating a movie. My speech isn’t memorized word for word, so it sounds natural and spontaneous and can be adapted on the fly to fit the situation. Memorizing visually is much faster and more robust than trying to memorize words. If you memorize a speech word for word and forget a line, it can really throw you off. But with a series of images, it’s easier to jump ahead to the next frame if you make a mistake. Our brains are better suited to visualize memorization than phonetic memorization.

I don’t recommend memorizing by repetition because it’s way too slow. Pegging and chaining do not require repetition — they allow you to imbed strong memories on a single pass, usually in seconds. The downside is that pegging and chaining require a lot of up-front practice to master, but once you learn them, these are valuable skills you’ll have for life. I also found that learning these techniques seemed to improve my memory as a whole, even when I’m not actively trying to memorize. I think this practice trained my subconscious to store and recall information more effectively.

It’s a shame these techniques aren’t normally taught in school. They would save students an enormous amount of time. Do yourself a favor and learn them while you’re young. They have a lot of practical applications, including remembering people’s names.

10. Have some serious fun!

Challenge yourself academically, but give yourself plenty of time for fun as well. Don’t squander your leisure time hanging around doing nothing. Go out and do something active that will blow off steam and increase your energy.

One of my favorite college leisure activities was frisbee golf (also called disc golf). I used to play for hours at night with a couple friends, sometimes until my fingers became blistered… or until campus security gave us the boot for hitting one too many non-player students. :)

While playing frisbee golf, we would often have to scavenge through bushes, wade through fountains, and climb over various hazards trying to recover errant frisbees. It was always lots of fun, and we’d usually “play through” these obstacles. Several hours of frisbee golf served as a delightful reward at the end of a challenging week. I still remember an incredible “hole in one” shot I made from a second-story balcony to hit a light post at the edge of a soccer field.

My biggest regret about college is that I didn’t have a girlfriend during that time. If I had it to do all over again, I probably would have added an extra semester and taken fewer classes to make time for that someone special. I had the opportunity, but I had to pass it up because my schedule was too packed. Girlfriends can be a lot of fun, but most aren’t very efficient. ;)

This article’s advice centers on making your college experience as rich and memorable as possible. Get your school work done quickly and efficiently, so you have plenty of time for the variety of activities college can offer. Join clubs. Play frisbee golf. Get a boyfriend or girlfriend. The worst thing you can do is spend your time falling behind academically due to poor habits, feeling stressed and unprepared all the time, and then playing catch up. Squeeze as much juice out of college as you can, and let it serve as a springboard to a lifetime of fulfillment.

People often assume my aggressive schedule must have been stressful and exhausting, but the irony is that it was just the opposite. I seemed to have an easier, more enjoyable experience than my peers. Students with lighter schedules slacked off and fell behind because they convinced themselves they could make up for it later. But I couldn’t afford to do that because it would have been impossible for me to catch up on a dozen different classes… and way too stressful to even think about it. If I fell even a week behind, I’d be in serious trouble. So I was compelled to develop good habits that kept me perpetually relaxed, focused, and energized. Many of the habits discussed above were simply the result of setting the goal to graduate in three semesters. That goal dictated the process. I’m very grateful for the experience because it showed me just how much more effective we can be when we push ourselves beyond our comfort zones. It taught me to keep setting goals beyond what I feel certain I can accomplish. Many times what we assume to be impossible just isn’t. We only think it is